The dreadful four letter word!

Ok first things first. STOP!( all you dirty minds its not what you are thinking!!!). The thing about which i intend to write is the thing which some say makes their world go round (chakkar aate hai kya? :P ).. some say brings a smile on their face and a twinkle in their eyes.... some say it makes you forget everything else going on around you (amnesia???) so on and so forth. In simple words they call it LOVE! Here's a statutory warning to all the readers (if there are any) please do not read further if you are one of the patients of this disease. And NO i am not talking about the love for parents, friends, dogs, chocolates, food, clothes.... it is the "loooooooove" i am talking about. 

I would like to quickly categorise as to who can actually read ahead....

a) people who donot believe in the very concept itself  (falling in love.... being in love... whatever it is)  and havent ever  thought of trying it even once as the word is "scary".

b) people who have "tried" their hand and burnt their fingers once or twice.

c) people who have burnt their entire hand.

d) people who dont care a damn as long as they can kill some time ( jobless basically)

So categorise categorise yourself and go ahead....

The dictionary defines this word as ( i have selected the meanings as per  reference to the context)

i) a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

ii) a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart

iii) a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.

As a kid one fails to understand what exactly this word means. For me it was a word which was a "bad" word. Dont know why.... it sounds very silly now but when the word used to come up in some way or the other all i did was giggle...look at my friends and pretend i am scandalised! later as i grew up i discovered the other meanings also...mom, dad love me... i love them... i love spark (my dog)... i love music... i love singing... i love writing... etc etc... yes i knew the other usage of that as well... but it wasnt of much importance. It was the age of making friends..have a few crushes once in a while... writing about them in your diaries ( which ultimately some way or the other your mom found out!!!! ) and then realising after a week or two that person about whom you spent some considerable amount of time writing about was a JERK!!!! This was during my high school days. The whole idea of looooove! Influenced by our very own 'Kuch Kuch Hota hai' , 'Dilwale Dulhania Le jayenge' ( remember andekha anjaana koi aane laga khayalon mein and pyaar dosti hai!?!?! ) No offense i guess... we all learn from our mistakes ( and what I learnt here was to NEVER EVER mention the guy's name in the diary... use code words instead!!!! ;) ) and I still enjoy those movies...only difference is that i dont take them seriously anymore.

Then i grew up... and there was an extention to the concept... that it was skin deep( cliched i know! ) ... that it doesnt matter how the person looks ( really ?? :P ) and all that mattered is that the person knew you fully well and liked you for what you are... as it is... ( fat, thin, dumb, smart, funny, senti whatever!) and yes one major thing... it happens just once! And I am still in that phase. I firmly believe that its something that happens just once and even if someway it happens second time..its always difficult to be completely over the first one. Things change with time and i am hoping if my first stint with the whole thing ( why am I avoiding using the "word" i dunno ) is not that great it keeps happenning again and again just like the first time. Oh yeah!! one more thing... the idea that it just "happens" is absurd i feel ( apologies if ppl dont agree/get offended)... It doesnt happen if you dont let it to!  But how many people have turned their first gf's/bf's into their life partners?!?! I wish there were as many as the speed breakers on the Bangalore-Mysore road.

Why do things do not work as they say??? If you know the person... the real one... and like him/her and give sometime before plunging into the whole thing then it really shouldnt be a problem. Being loyal/faithful I think comes with it.... crushes (physical attraction...as in liking the way the person looks THTS IT) happen...but thats ok! Blame it on the hormones! :P. Committment issues ( I LOVE Chandler but by inducing this concept into the guys he has done a very very wrong thing! damn u Chandler!), Long distance ralationships! ( Why the hell are we aping the west?!!) are somethings which are beyond my understanding. Just in case anyone happens to read this... explain maadi paaa! pls!!!

After seeing some shows on television ( ohk ohk i know its the "idiot box" ) ... reading magazines... and with the globalization, industrialization, modernization ( hi-fi words eh?! :P )  Farhanitrate Prerajularization ( i loved 3 idiots!! :P)  i feel there is one more word that needs to be attached to this word... consumerism! One is never enough! ( well i dont really agree with it... but the whole world seems to be practicing that) and personally i feel that the very sanctity, pureness of the word is lost :(. It no more comes with a "forever" tag attached and thats really sad. We need to change this attitude and stick to the fact that it happens just once.. and we need to work our butts off to make it work... or if you are my type (lazy!) then stay single. Right now with the current status of my mind I think the only person worth falling in love is I ME MYSELF! So that way i dont get dumped (vice versa) , i dont get hurt and i stay happy... for now... for always!

I hope this post becomes an instant hit and tomorrow i am flooded with the offers to write a rom-com flick! ( yes yes yes i live in my own world!! :) ). For now i am signing off! Would love to hear what you think!

cheers!